six and nine

i've just realized that number six and nine are so synonym with my life. among others:

9 is my birth date
6 is the date adam was born
9 is the date alesya was born

69 is part of madē's house number in krai
my parent's house is along jalan au5c/6
9 is our house number

madē has 6 siblings
before alesya, tokma has 6 grandchildren

the best of all,

6 is the date that madē and i got married
9 is the month that madē and i celebrate our wedding anniversary
in 2009, madē and i celebrated our 6th anniversary
in 2010, when alesya is 6 months old, adam will be celebrating his 6th birthday

maid in surabaya (II)

and will stay in surabaya..

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my maid was supposed to return on the 24th. yet on the 23rd, i heard no news. so we made a courtesy call to her aunt, bibik, whose working with my BIL. it was about 4ish that i received a text saying "assalamualaikum cik anna sma cik madan sy mnta maaf sya tk bsa blik lg k'malay". i was shopping barang untuk kenduri alesya and i feel like nak pegi surabaya and sekeh itu budak. kalau tak nak balik lagi, bagitau la awal². ni aku jugak yang kena jejak kasih ko, baru reti nak hantar berita? sialan..

i text her aunt again. telling her to come back for a while, have her visa cancelled & withdraw her money in her account since she has return ticket and i am willing to bear her flight back to surabaya. tak payah duk lama² pun tak pe. ahad datang, senin settle semua. selasa nak balik, baliklah.. itu pun tanak. rasa macam kuajaque betul pompuan ni..

si durjana posing cun

dahla time datang itu hari melenggang sehelai sepinggang aje. org kat sana kata tak boleh bawak beg besar2. jadiknya dia datang sini berbekalkan telekung dengan sepender aje. bodo! sudahnya kami jugaklah kuar duit beli pakaian harian, toiletteries apa bagai. fine.. rezeki dia...

first month working, tetiba telefon umah tak de dering. kat umah, kitaorang selalu main talipon. seperti, i make a call to madē or adam daripada dalam bilik. satu hari tu macam heran aje kenapa talipon tak berbunyik langsung. so i went to check. tengok², switch ringer tu dah di"OFF"kan. dah 4 tahun kami duk umah tu, tetiba ada maid ni, talipon tu off? heran... i didn't ask my maid. but, who else? donchathink?

ok fine.. cukuplah dengan cite dulu kala.. back to on the day i got her message. tanak balik. ok. tanak settle visa. ok. skang ni, time dia balik itu hari, all expenses were ours. sebabnya? tak sempat keluarkan duit dalam akaun mbb dia. thus, skang dia berhutang RM1,419.00 (not a confirmed figure) to us. i know it's a slim chance to withdraw her money in her account as at the time of opening the account we didn't make it as a joint account. and i also realize, it's a very² slim chance for us to get back the money. tak pelah dik.. amiklah duit tu. akak haramkan.. boleh?

back from GE mall, i took all her belongings and kumbah dalam plastik sampah; to which i'm going to pass to her aunt. to my surprise, as i was cleaning up bantal² yang dia pakai, tetiba terjatuh sampul² cokelat. my goodness!!!! kenapalah pompuan ni macam ni. nak makan, makan ajelah. kenapa kena sorok makan dalam bilik and sorok sampah macam tu. kalau menda gini pun dia sorok, dont you think i'd be wondering apa benda lagi yang dia sorok? salah adam pun dia sorok². salah dia komfem la dia sorokkan? kot kalau dia jaga alesya, confirm sure 100% la kalau ada salah dia sorok kan? istighfar banyak suhanna oiii..... hikmah daripada Allah mungkin.

i read in a forum the other day. a lady commented "org kita buat maid macam kuli, hamba abdi. kalau pegi kedai selekeh aje pakaian. itu pun kalau nak dibawa ke kedai. kalau tak, duduklah maid tercongok di rumah. memanglah maid lari". on one hand, i agree. on the other hand, kalau diri kita sendiri tak senang nak bawak maid keluar, macam mana? our family for instance.. we are so used to jalan² the 3 of us saja. tetiba ada satu org extra, rasa len macam tu for sure la.. then bila duduk makan lagi kacau bilau. madē used to take the opposite seat with adam next to me. bila ada maid, madē dah tak selesa nak duk my opposite as he had to seat next to the maid. and bila maid tu duduk mengadap madē dah si maid makan pun tersipu² macam makan beradap. macam mana?

geram okeh.. sangat geram..

skang ni, i wonder..... is she in kl or still in surabaya? she has her return ticket and her visa is still valid.

masalahnya skang, madē is due for a bangkok trip some time next month. i'll be back to work on the 8th. our last resort is to send both kids to maknek. but if i were to be alone, sending two kids with my working hours start at 8am, yes, ISKL is just a couple of kilometer away but the traffic is like fish curry okeh.. mau menyentap hati nurani perasaan jiwa time tu.. takut angin nak mengamuk aje nanti..

mintak-mintaklah Allah permudahkan urusan kami sekeluarga. amin..

sepuluh minit aje

ada satu hari tu, i was sleepy while alesya was wide awake. jadiknya, saya mintaklah abg adam tengokkan adik dia kejap.

mama: adam tengok adik kejap boleh? mama nak sleep 10 minutes. boleh tak?
adam: ok.. boleh mama
mama: thank you adam. i love you
adam: i love you too..

saya pun cubalah menutup mata. sambil tu dengarlah abg adam main dengan adik dia.

"oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.."(*)
"bukak mata, tutup mata. bukak mata, tutup mata"
"bukak mulut, takde gigi.. sapa takde gigi? alesya!"
"oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.."
"sapa anak manja mama? alesya! sapa anak sayangan mama? alesya"
"sapa takde gigi? alesya!"
"oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.. oooozi.."

"uwaaaaaaa" balas si adik

adam: mama, i think we have a problem over here
mama: alahai adam... jangan kata 10 minit. 3 minit pun mama tak dapat tido..

bangunlah saya melayan si alesya dan budak ooozi adam itu..


(*) oooozi tu cara adam meng-agah alesya. lebih kurang macam "alalalalalalalala"...

alesya is 40 days :D

THE PLAN:

1. 9 - 945am: alesya to meet up with ISKL folks & send in the florist's bill to shanthi
2. 10am: appointment with my gynae, doc alex
3. 1030am: alesya's appointment with doc adrian. she's due for her first hepatitis B jab
4. anytime after alesya's appointment: lunch @ great eastern mall
   
5. then to jalan TAR. to find souvenir for alesya's kenduri
6. then to plaza (or wisma?) GM to find paper bag for alesya's kenduri also
   

WHAT HAD HAPPENED?

bangun agak lambat. kul 8am terpisat² lagi sapu taik mata. malam tadi tido kul 1.30am. alesya pun tak lena tido malam tadi. madē kuar gi breakfast, saya check tupperware punya web. banyaknya order.... saba ye puan-puan. hari ni adalah hari saya & alesya :D

kul 9 baru nak mengarah adam mandi. masuk kereta pukul 9:51am. 9 minit boleh sampai gleneagles ke? boleh.. tapi terlebih sikitlah.. sebab dah lambat, trip ke ISKL terpaksa postponed.

reached doc alex's clinic about 10:05am. takdelah lambat sangat.. ramai pulak orang dekat klinik doc alex hari ni. 10:29am madē tanya nurse how many people ahead of us and if we should come back after alesya's appointment. "ada lagi satu patient, lepas tu lagi satu. lepas tu suhanna punya turn". ok. we waited. now it's 11am. we asked again if we should come back. the nurse said "lepas patient yang ni, patient yang tu nak buat pap smear. sekejap saja". so we waited, thinking that pap smear's procedure would be just a little while. i rang doc adrian's clinic informing them that we would be late. i had a feeling that my appointment would be delayed for another while after seeing a warded patient came in. she was there since 10:30am when i asked madē to enquire about my appointment for the first time. true enough... when it was my turn, one of the nurses came to me and ask "do you think she can go in first?" pointing to the warded patient. wah!!! terbakar hati. "you should've told me earlier. i've asked few times. i have another appointment with the pediatrician at 10:30am". and we went off.

at the pediatrician's clinic, biasalah.. hectic dengan budak². leka tengok derang main. tetiba je nama alesya dah kena panggil. when people pronounce alesya as "e-li-sya", it sounded strange and orang putih la... kan? hehehe.. alesya nangis sikit je. peh pujuk² she was ok. wonderful! then we asked doc adrian if he can sunatkan alesya. dia recommended doc zuraidah. another doc yang handle urusan persunatan bebudak. after the consultation we went to visit doc zuraidah. luckily dia ada morning session today. memula bila madē tanya, nurse dia kata cost would be RM500. nak pengsan dengar. mahalnyaaaaa... bila dah settled, RM213.00 was charged. bolehlah.... again, alesya tak nangis sangat. mama yang nak menitis air mata bila pegang alesya for the doc to do the procedure.

oh! lupa nak citer.. kat doc alex's clinic, alesya muntah lepas minum susu. selambak susu atas baju dia. masam baju anak mama. dekat doc zuraidah's clinic pulak, alesya terkencing masa bukak diaper. selamat baju dengan swaddle dia.

so plan sudah bertukar. either pegi GE mall dulu; beli baju alesya then lunch then send adam for painting class then to ISKL OR ISKL dulu then GE mall.

sudahnya? we went to ISKL. plan nak duk 10 minit; jadik sengah jam. konon nak gi GE mall, tak alih sampai ke aeon sebab adam nak makan sushi. plan nak plaza GM? terbengkalai. hehehe.. lepas makan kat sushi king, pegi carik baju alesya. this is the second time beli baju untuk alesya sebab alesya dapat banyak baju from fellow friends & relatives. jadik mama & ayah tak payah beli baju. dah ganti baju, pegi beli groceries then pegi minum lepas lelah seharian. lepak tengok budak² main air dekat tengah² aeon tu, then balik.

adoi.. letihnya kaki.... salah kaki ke salah kasut? kasut due for a new one? hahahaha.....

banyaknya berbelanja off late ni. ish.. tak bolehlah.. impulsive shoppings. macam mana nak beli keta baru nanti? aisehhhh.... say NO to shopping. say YES to saving.

tapi kasut dah tak best pakai. sian tumit saya.. macam mana eh? kehkehkeh...

bershopping barang alesya

9hb itu hari genap umur alesya sebulan. yey!

we didn't intend to go out pun at first. tapi sebab kena tukar tiket flight untuk pembantu, jadiknya kuarlah juga. ececece... alasan!

plan nak kuar awal, tapi pakcik yatim depan ni buat kenduri doa selamat. so tukar plan ke lepas zohor. lepas zohor pun, gung-gang-gung-gang.. pukul 3 jugak baru kuar umah. first spot, kl sentral. ya tuhan.. ramainya orang. kat air asia punya kaunter lagi best. time kami amik nombor giliran, org yang ke 1393 sedang di kaunter. nombor kami? 1473. memula rasa macam frust aje. tapi bila perasan yang running number tu agak laju, kami tunggulah. lepak kejap kat mekdi. lepas tu berjalan2. sebab mekdi tu macam ramai orang aje. nak duduk lama2 pun tak selesa. alhamdulillah - processing period dekat air asia tu tak lama. tak sampai 15 minit pun. efficient sungguh.

from kl sentral, we moved to BSC. our main place of interest is mothercare and madē tanak pegi tempat yang ramai orang. peh tu tengok kat website pun, dekat BSC adalah mother segala mothercares. ya rabbi... memang pon! giler besar. variety choices. basketball mata ini dibuatnya. barang yang nak dibeli hanyalah baby carrier. tapi sudahnya beli sekali bouncing cradle, bottle brush dengan kipas kecik. automatic dapat VIP card. nasib baik tak beli nursing chair sekali. hahaha.. sedap giler kerusinya. madē kata "macam kosi tok ayah aje. cuma takde pads". hehehe.. memang sangat! hajat nak beli jugaklah kosi tu. tak guna untuk nursing, boleh guna untuk tengok tv or baca buku cite. hai... kalo dah nak tu, nak jugak. ada aje alasan untuk membeli :P

baby carrier tu memang kami nak pakai in the nearest future. sebelum alesya muat masuk stroller, so better pakai carrier sajalah. cradle tu sebab pembantu balik bercuti (ke?) jadik, nak biar alesya senang tido dalam cradle tu. takdelah nak harap berdodoi aje. kang satu keje umah tak berjalan pulak. nak rush masak untuk abg adam & madē by 11.30am. kang dok melayan alesya, kesian pulak madē kena berkejar² amik adam peh tu nak lunch peh tu nak balik office.

sepanjang kat situ, adam leka dekat ELC area. tau apa dia main? dapur. memula dia main dinasours. peh tu melekat sampai sudah dekat dapur tu. i asked him, "adam, don't you think this toy is for girls?" he answered "no mama... this is also for boys. look at the picture". gamba kat kotak tu ada la gamba budak laki dengan budak pompuan main sama². sukati la adam...

time keluar dari umah tu, saya pakaikan alesya romper dengan legging aje. tak sangka nak berlama kat mothercare tu. alesya dah kesejukan. rembat satu baju sejuk. balik umah, madē tanya"berapa ringgit baju alesya ni?". saya menjawab, "rm104. tapi jangan risau... i amik size 6-9 months". kehkehkeh.. yelah.. sweater bukannya pakai selalu. tau-tau nanti the next time she needs it, baju tu dah ngam² dengan dia. again, alasan! hahaha..

peh tu konon nak makan kat chillies. waiting list panjang sangat. so we moved to dome. in between kena tukar pampers alesya, tapi kat BSC takde nursing room. tak best lah. kesian alesya kena tukar pampers atas kerusi dalam ladies toilet aje. kot² ada sesapa yang keje BSC yang baca posting ni, sila la buat proposal pada management suh buat nursing room ye.. tima kasih :D

sangat seronok berjalan dengan alesya. tidur aje. agaknya dalam keadaan air-conditioned. tidur pun lena. tunggu la besar sket lagi... jenuhlah nak berkejar. itu belum "mama, saya nak naik merry-go-round", "mama, saya nak beli itu", "mama, nak! nak! nak!".

adoih... lets enjoy the serenity before disaster comes. hahahaha..

timbang tara 101

nak teduh punya pasal..

day one

tanpa maid. adoiiiiiiii...... lotihnya den..

malam tadi tertidur lambat. takdelah "ter"nya sangat. hehehe.. pagi ni rasa malas sangat nak bangun. tapi bangun jugak sebab fikirkan nak bersiap sebelum bersilat dengan alesya pagi ni. lepas mandi, startlah basuh pinggan. lepas tu start the washing machine dan rendam baju alesya. then adam pergi sekolah. dah babai, start balik kerja rumah. basuh baju alesya. kemas toys adam. jenguk alesya, tengok dah bergerak-gerak. tanda nak bangun dah tu. buatkan air mandi dia. tengah jerang air atas api, dia dah merengek. angkat dulu. bila dah angkat, air pulak masak. tengah tutup api air, madē pulak called. mintak gosokkan baju sekolah adam yang lain. katanya adam muntah kat sekolah. tanya kenapa, dia kata adam nangis.

adoiiiiii.....

bagi alesya minum susu dulu sambil tunggu adam & madē balik. bila tanya adam kenapa nangis, dia kata dia nervous.

"saya takut saya buat salah. nanti teacher veni marah".
"adam ada buat salah ke?"
"tak ada"
"dah tu.. kenapa takut?"
"sebab saya muntah"
"adam muntah sebab adam nangis. janganlah macam tu.. kalau adam buat salah, memanglah teacher marah. kalau adam tak buat salah, kenapa teacher nak marah adam pulak?"
"tak tau..."

tengok muka madē dah ada sikit air asam campur cuka. tunggu ikan bakar je nak buat cicah..

"u dah called office kata lambat?"
"belum"
"tak pelah.. i hantar adam gi sekolah. nanti i tunggu sampai dia habis. alesya pun dah susu. tak lapar sangat kot. by the time adam balik, just nice for her feeding"

berseri sikit muka madē. dia tak tau bini dia tengah bengong² macam mana nak bawak baby. bawak kereta lagi. nak layan perasaan anak bujang sorang lagi.

adoiiiii....

sampai sekolah, adam was all ok. even dalam kereta siap cakap "mama.. i'm excited nak bawak alesya pergi sekolah saya. are you excited mama?". "i am excited. but you cannot do this all the time. adam tak sayang ayah ke? ayah lambat pergi kerja. nanti teacher ayah marah macam mana?" i said.

segan aje being the only parent at the school. adam ni pun.. nak buat perangai agak-agaklah sikit. minggu kedua, tahun kedua sekolah baru nak buat perangai. kalau tak, ok aje. kenapalah agaknya... pasal alesya ke? tak pulak rasanya. sayang sangat dia kat adik dia. nak bermanja dengan ayah ngan mama ke? kalau nak manja macam ni, kena pang aje karang budak ni. ish.. tak taulah kenapa. nak kata teacher veni tu garang sangat, takdelah pulak. nampak okay aje. tapi dia pun kata, "dah masuk KG3 ni, teacher kena garang sikit. sebab nanti dia nak pergi primary one dah tak boleh nak mengada-ngada". betul jugak kata teacher tu..

awal tadi plan nak buat sup ayam dengan nasik. balik tadi, tak sempatlah nak masak. minum air seteguk pun tidak sepagi ni. mekdonel ajelah jawabnya. makan quarter of quarter pounder dah kekenyangan. dah masuk angin gamaknya perut ni. malam ni ajelah masak ayam tu.. itu pun kot rajin. :D

kasihan alesya. i was not prepared for this emergency. so alesya, sekali lagi pakai romper but this time no legging. kasihan anak aku - kesejukan. nasib baik teacher veni pinjamkan shawl dia. itu pun susu takde, alesya minum air kosong aje. sampai tido minum air kosong.

aduhai..

ada cradle ni pun bagus jugak. dah tertidur dah anak kesayangan & anak manja mama kat depan. nak buat kerja rumah ke nak join tidur?

mmmmm......

maid in surabaya

nope! it's not jennifer lopez's new movie :P my maid has returned to her hometown this morning. only she can decide if it's for good or for a little while..

earlier, she had requested to be sent home for good and we have mutually agreed and bought her ticket for a one way trip on 16th january. somehow, i changed my mind and did some reconciliations. mainly after:

1) i looked at madē when we were discussing on how to move things forward and then i realized that i'm giving him another "little" trouble. no, he was not complaining. he's not that type of person. but when he said "it's ideal if i got another job, u stay with your job and we could get kak liza in to take care of these two kids". i realized, he just wants me to be happy and he wants to improve things as much as he can. along the lines, i also realized that i'm happy to stay with my job though i feel like quitting so that i could take care of my kids. it's best if madē could get a better job but with the current economic situation, i dont feel it's a good idea. he has a good platform, but i'm a little skeptical about him moving around at the moment. and putting kak liza in the pic is brilliant, but it means little money to save :(

2) i had my eyes on alesya the very next morning after my discussion with madē, and thought... "kesian anak mama.. ada tadika boleh jaga abg, tak leh jaga adik. and vice versa. ada tadika boleh jaga dua-dua tapi nanti berlainan tempat." i wished, i hoped, i wanted to quit my job there and then... but if i were to consider a comfortable ground for my two kids, i can't leave now. not at least with shanthi around. if shanthi consider retiring soon, i might be following her footsteps.

3) i had the thinking.. i cant rewind the past. i can wish but i cant expect things to be perfectly done as what i have requested. so i thought, why dont i give the maid another try? after all; no tries, no errors. and to find a very suitable maid is very unlikely. you'd never know who'd be on your doormats. and if i ain't giving her any exposures, how could she learn and have new experience? dont you think so?

hence, i'm keeping my maid and keeping my finger crossed for future. insya Allah.. nothing goes wrong. i've told my maid about my expectations. she's right when she said she doesn't have much to do in my house as some of the house works, myself and madē would rather do it ourselves. thus she'll be staying with my mother for the weekends. what my parents wants her to do during the weekend, it's up to them. as long as my maid is happy and agreeing to the arrangements, it's fine with me. most important is that we could have the weekends for ourselves. madē, myself, adam & alesya :D

the arrangement started yesterday and she got her new watch for helping my mom at her new house. she proudly showed me the watch. on the other hands, the four of us got to spend some valuable time in mothercare bangsar. lucky we were not some big shot. or else, we might have bought the whole shop! yikes!! she's happy i'm happy.

all of us will be waiting "the call" from her. whether she's giving us the bad or good news, we would accept it with open mind. of course we'd hope for her to return, but if that's against her mom & dad's saying, i hope we could find the best solutions.

insya-Allah.. every skies has it silver lining... :D